On the Intention-Action Gap and Interbecoming

Transforming Our Projects of Transformation

Welf von Hören
4 min readJun 4, 2020


Growing, together. Photo by Andrej Lišakov on Unsplash

I want to be more capable of doing the things that I actually want to do.

I want to do things that are good for me, for others, for the world.

I have intentions and values.

I know that if I live by them, my life is going to be better than if I don’t.

At the end of the day, I will feel better when I have acted in integrity with my intentions. At the end of my life, I would regret not having lived up to my potential.

It is about bridging the gap between what my instant gratification monkey wants, and what the rational decision-maker in me wants. It’s about aligning the rider and the elephant, aligning the primitive mind with the higher mind.

About bridging the intention-action-gap. About doing what’s hard to do.

And about doing the things that are so painfully easy not to do.

Like sitting down to meditate for 10 minutes a day. Like writing a page every day to end up writing the book that you wanted to write. Like practicing the piano regularly. Like exercising three times a week. Like not getting sucked into feeds. Like using the most productive hours of your day wisely.

Consistency and discipline is what unlocks the compound interest of developmentally effective practices.

Habits are powerful because, if you choose them well, they are developmentally effective, values-based practices, intentionally and consistently acted on.

I want to become more able to do the things that are good for me and to do things that are good for the world. I want to do the things that develop me.

And I also want to share that process of becoming with the people I love.

I want us all together to be inspired and motivated, to live by our highest values. To develop ourselves.

I want to develop, but I don’t want to develop in isolation.

I want a way to relate to my friends in the context of our mutual self-improvement.